1 in 6 people are narcissists. Learn to spot them early | Ramani Durvasula: Full Interview
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Narcissistic people are often charming at the dinner party and cruel in the car ride home, which tells you they can control it. Clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula, author of It’s Not You, has studied narcissism since long before it became a buzzword, and she argues that most of what circulates online gets it wrong.
00:00 Chapter 1: How to identify narcissism
5:59 Why narcissism is having its moment
26:27 The C-suite traits that help narcissists hide
31:41 The 5 types of narcissism
53:22 Why codependency is the wrong lens
1:03:19 Chapter 2: Signs you are in a narcissistic relationship
1:08:00 How love bombing works
1:16:43 What gaslighting really is
1:26:05 The self-blame trap
1:29:11 How these relationships affect your body
1:42:53 Chapter 3: How to grieve and recover after a narcissistic relationship
1:47:32 Radical acceptance & naming the grief
2:00:04 Healing without closure
2:05:40 The truth about no contact
2:08:22 Why healing happens in relationship
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About Ramani Durvasula:
Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist in California, professor emerita of psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People, as well as “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility and Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist. She trains clinicians worldwide on working with people affected by narcissistic abuse and hosts a widely followed YouTube channel on the subject. She earned her M.A. and Ph.D. in clinical psychology from UCLA.
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Finding and protecting selfhood in the age of social contagion | Luke Burgis: Full Interview ► https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9WJ-GGD212s
Narcissistic people are often charming at the dinner party and cruel in the car ride home, which tells you they can control it. Clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula, author of It’s Not You, has studied narcissism since long before it became a buzzword, and she argues that most of what circulates online gets it wrong.
00:00 Chapter 1: How to identify narcissism
5:59 Why narcissism is having its moment
26:27 The C-suite traits that help narcissists hide
31:41 The 5 types of narcissism
53:22 Why codependency is the wrong lens
1:03:19 Chapter 2: Signs you are in a narcissistic relationship
1:08:00 How love bombing works
1:16:43 What gaslighting really is
1:26:05 The self-blame trap
1:29:11 How these relationships affect your body
1:42:53 Chapter 3: How to grieve and recover after a narcissistic relationship
1:47:32 Radical acceptance & naming the grief
2:00:04 Healing without closure
2:05:40 The truth about no contact
2:08:22 Why healing happens in relationship
Read the video transcript ► https://bigthink.com/series/full-interview/spotting-narcissism-durvasula/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=youtube_description
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About Ramani Durvasula:
Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist in California, professor emerita of psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People, as well as “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility and Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist. She trains clinicians worldwide on working with people affected by narcissistic abuse and hosts a widely followed YouTube channel on the subject. She earned her M.A. and Ph.D. in clinical psychology from UCLA.
